DO YOU, BE YOU, FOR YOU- MY NATURAL HAIR EXPERIENCE

Natural Hair Journey

Just like learning to accept my body, transitioning to natural hair has truly been a journey. So much so that this is my second try at it. The first time I went natural I transitioned for a year and when I cut the last bit of my perm off, I looked in the mirror and I almost went into tears. Not because I had that moment that most naturals talk about, you know the moment when you felt so liberated and free and wanted to shout to the roof tops, “I love my natural hair”!!!! But Instead, when I made that last cut I felt a feeling of sadness. I looked in that mirror people and I was like. Omg what did I do?!? I did not feel beautiful, I did not feel free, instead the magic that this black girl felt was very dark. Within that hour I was at the nearest beauty supply store snatching up that good ol creamy crack to slap back in my head and didn’t even give it a second thought. Over that next year I struggled with my hair. The relaxer basically sent my hair into complete shock. I dealt with excessively dry and dull hair, breakage and a list of other issues. Which had me question my decision to get a relaxer again and only confirmed that relaxers can really do some damage to your hair. If you have been following me on social media and my blog you know that I continuously preach body positivity and most importantly self-love and acceptance of yourself. With that being said I couldn’t help but to question why when I looked in that mirror a couple of years ago, why didn’t I feel the person staring back at me was beautiful simply because of my hair. Then I realized just as with not loving your body, not loving your hair is a societal issue. Society had instead led our mothers and our grandmothers  to believe that their black was not beautiful, that kinky hair was less attractive than straighter hair and these ideals had been transferred on through generations. Adding on the media’s perception of beauty being feed to us through TV, social media ect its no wonder that people, women in particular put so much pressure on themselves to look a certain way.  When I told my mother that I was going natural I might as well had of told her I was about to jump off a bridge. The look on her face was that of devastation and confusion.  Although I understood her feelings I could not internalize them. So I decided to give going natural another try when I became pregnant with my son. Over the next year and a half I wore wigs as I transitioned to natural, slowly cutting off my perm as new growth grew in. Every time I cut off a little more perm I became more and more excited. What was so different this time you say? I believe at this point I had fully began to accept me and be confident in the women I had become without worrying about what other people had to say or thought about my choices when it comes to me and my body.  During my transition I wore wigs, kept my hair moisturizer and did not use heat at all. This process really helped to keep my hair protected and healthy.  I loved/ love wearing wigs. I have a very busy  and hectic life and wigs are honestly so convenient and allow me to change-up my look to whatever I can imagine without damaging my own hair. Even with wearing wigs I was met with adversity from others. Statements like… you should wear your real hair, why do you wear wigs and the list goes on. At the end of the day people are always going to have something to say. The best advice I can give is to “Do you , Be You, For You” , basically live your life and do what makes you comfortable and happy. This applies to your body, your hair whatever it maybe. Through out life I have learned that people will try to put you in a box to make themselves feel comfortable and we are so much more complex than that. I most recently wore my hair out for the world to see and posted it on social media. This was a huge step for me. I felt a sense of empowerment and beauty because I tried something new and did not care what response I received from others. The truth is, if I decided to put a perm in my hair tomorrow, slap a wig on real quick or decided to change anything in my life, such as diet, what ever that may be I can do that because that is what “I” want to do.  That does not make me any less authentic, any less proud to be black or any less body positive. What that makes me is an individual who is able to do what I want, when I want! Besides, being like everyone else is boring, being yourself…. Well that is where the magic happens!

Natural Hair Journey

Natural Hair Journey

Natural Hair Journey

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NATURAL HAIR CARE PRODUCTS

NATURAL HAIR PRODUCTS

NATURAL HAIR PRODUCTS

NATURAL HAIR CARE PRODUCTS

NATURAL HAIR CARE PRODUCTS

NATURAL HAIR CARE PRODUCTS

NATURAL HAIR CARE PRODUCTS

9 thoughts on “DO YOU, BE YOU, FOR YOU- MY NATURAL HAIR EXPERIENCE

  1. Isn’t it amazing how much our hair determines how we feel about the way we look? And just so you know, you look beautiful with relaxed hair and with natural hair. You can rock either look, girl!

  2. Yes, I love that you have choosen to rock and embrace your natural hair. All the products that you shared. I use those as well. They really do work to soften, strengthen and grow your hair healthy!!! The black castor oil, and cocunut oil are my favs. Thanks for sharing and educating the natural girls out there!!! 😘😘

  3. You are beautiful! I understand what you went through, as I endured the same comments, etc from others (including family), when I went natural 16 years ago. I totally agree with you about the fact that having negative body & hair images is a societal issue.
    You have thick, beautiful hair & I can tell it’s very healthy. Continue to ‘Do you & be you, for YOU’.

  4. You are so beautiful with a either way, yet I admire your process and determination! Your natural hair is beautiful don’t let anyone ever make you feel or think otherwise. This post is motivational to all the women who have thought about going natural, but where a bit afraid to do it! <3 Keep inspiring girl!

  5. Tameka, I love this post! Yes, “Do you, Be you, For you” is a powerful statement that helps encourages strength and self-love! Don’t worry you are not the only one who has trouble with ‘practicing wha you preach’ dilemma, we all do that! We’re our biggest critics and sometimes I forget…who care’s??? I mean we obviously care, but why do we care ‘negatively’??? It’s baffling isn’t it…but just like you said..first step is accepting your own beauty and then the confidence follows! Thanks for sharing and you look oh so fab with any hair! -Leena
    http://www.exploreandadore.com

  6. Being natural is definitely not easy. I first went natural because i thought it would be better for my hair….it’s better from a lack of chemicals in my hair, but more maintenance for sure which is why I result to wigs. Good for you for giving it another goal! I’ve actually been thinking about going back to relaxed….but I’m inspired to keep going! Great photos!

  7. I have definitely been there. I did the big chop and when I looked in the mirror I too was horrified. Nothing to frame my face, nothing to put in a ponytail, I was just bare. Its been 6 years now, and I think I have some damage from heat and once again I’ll have to get some hair cut off. Its a never ending thing but I cant imagine going back. So glad you gave it another try and have had your own awakened of who you are. You are not your hair, and you are gorgeous.

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